Trevor & Nelly’s Wedding
Ceremony Officiated by Rev. Stacey K. Miles
Married at the Shilo Inn Hotel, Richland, WA 11-10-12
Photos by Daisy Digital Photography
Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We are gathered here today to celebrate the wedding of Trevor and Nelly. The promises Trevor and Nelly will make to another are promises of commitment and devotion. Their commitments to each other are not only for a lifetime partner, they are commitments of a companion and friend, a friend with whom they will share hopes, dreams, ambitions, successes, and sometimes disappointments and sorrows that are part of life.
And we, their friends and family, will support them as they build their future together as husband and wife.
Trevor and Nelly, this sharing of your lives is not to be at the expense of your individuality; rather, the uniqueness of each you brings to this marriage will be enhanced by the strength of the bond you share.
So I ask now, Trevor, do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife?
Nelly, do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband?
May we have the lasso? Trevor, Nelly, with full awareness, know that with the draping of the Lasso across both of your hearts, you are showing your own free will to be bound together before your friends and family. The lasso signifies that your souls are becoming one and your love will be everlasting.
Marriage is a celebration of love. Matrimony symbolizes the ultimate intimacy between a man and a woman. A marriage that lasts is one that always has a little more to grow. Happiness in marriage doesn’t just happen. A good marriage must be created, cared for, and worked at.
In marriage, little things are big things; Never being too old to hold hands. Remembering to say, “I love you.” Not taking each other for granted. A hug sent over the phone lines when you’re apart. Your courtship shouldn’t end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years you spend together. A solid marriage is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives; standing together facing the world and all it offers.
Forming a circle of love around you that gathers in family and friends. Marriage is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in a spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It’s a continuously open dialog.
There are also things marriage is not. Marriage is not looking for perfection in the other. You need to cultivate flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. Nor is marriage a winner take all argument. Share in all things. Have the capacity to forgive and forget. Give one another an atmosphere in which to grow, and find room for things of the spirit. Search for the good and beautiful as well as the meaningful. Establish a relationship in which the independence is equal, the dependence is mutual, and the obligations are reciprocal.
Perhaps most importantly, remember marriage is not simply marrying the right partner; it is being the right partner.
This ceremony is the outward sign of a sacred and inward commitment. If each of you can be part of a union created with loving purpose, and continually renew with human feelings and intentions, I ask you to repeat your vows to one another after me:
Nelly, today I become your husband and you become my wife. I will strive to give you the best of myself, while accepting you the way you are. I promise to respect you as a whole person with your own interests, desires, and needs, and to realize that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you in to my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams. I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change, keeping our relationship alive and exciting. And finally, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all that I am, in the only way I know how, completely and forever.
Nelly, please repeat after me: Trevor, today I become your wife and you become my husband. I will strive to give you the best of myself, while accepting you the way you are. I promise to respect you as a whole person with your own interests, desires, and needs, and to realize that those are sometimes different, but no less important than my own. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you in to my innermost fears and feelings, secrets and dreams. I promise to grow along with you, to be willing to face change as we both change, keeping our relationship alive and exciting. And finally, I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all that I am, in the only way I know how, completely and forever.
Trevor do you have a ring for your bride? Please slide this ring onto Nelly’s finger and repeat after me, ” You are my life, my love, my best friend, may this be a reminder of my love and commitment we have made here today with this ring I thee wed.
Nelly, do you have a ring for your groom? Please slide this ring onto Trevor’s finger and repeat after me, “You are my life, my love, my best friend, may this be a reminder of my love and commitment we have made here today with this ring I thee wed. These rings symbolize your union. An unbroken circle of love to be worn all the days so long as you both shall love. May the spirit of love bless these rings and may they be a true symbol of the love of the one who gives it, and the one who wears it.
Please remove the lasso. Trevor, Nelly, you have chosen to affirm your love by the lighting of a unity candle. If you will please move to stand before the candles.
It is said, ‘From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls are destined for each other and find each other, their streams of light flow together and a single, brighter light goes forth from their united being.’ (by Baal Shem Tov)
If you will please take your individual candles and together light the center candle symbolizing the unity of your hearts and souls.
Nelly and Trevor, now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there is no more loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. Go now to enter into the days of your life together. And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
With the powers vested in me by the state of Washington, I now pronounce you man and wife. You may now seal your marriage with a kiss. Friends and family, I present to you, Mr. & Mrs…!