Readings, Scriptures, Poems & Quotes

I do apologize for this page not being organized... hopefully someday I will find the time to structure it a bit.

The Invitation, by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking a fool for love,
for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are square in your moon.

I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed down from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving, to hide it, fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true.

I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true yourself;
if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it is not pretty every day, and if you can source your life on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the moon in God’s presence.

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.

I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know, or how you came here.

I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.

I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in empty moments.

***

Love by Roy Croft
I love you
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can't help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple.
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good.
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.

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To Love is Not to Possess
James Kavanaugh

To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one's self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one's self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another–and to one's inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon's own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child's scars
Or an adult's deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are–and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

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From "The Velveteen Rabbit" by Margery Williams
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

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To Love
(Author Unknown)

To love is to enter a whole New World, a world of togetherness, a world of sharing....
All that is dearest and deepest within your hearts.
To love is to remember and keep alive forever all those unique qualities that drew you to one another in the beginning....
Those first halting phrases...
That wonderful feeling of oneness when your eyes first met.
To love is to constantly search for new ways to bring each other happiness, to make the most of every moment you share together, and marvel at how your feelings for one another keep rising to new dimensions.
To love is to create an oasis of tranquility for one another and a quiet place, apart from others, where you need not pretend...
where you can be yourselves....
And know within your hearts, you will be accepted by one another.
To love is to greet each day with anticipation...
Always eager for another opportunity to share new adventures...
And gather up new memories together!
To love is to follow the rainbow through the rain, to be able to laugh at yourselves and be willing to say....
"I was wrong, I'm sorry"...
To forgive, and more importantly, to forget,
and to always believe and trust in one another.
To love is to watch with wonder all the miracles of creation,
to find beauty in all the simple things of life, and to find, within yourselves, a deeper appreciation and a new awareness of how wonderful it is to be alive...
To be happy...
To be together.
To love is coming together from the pathways of your past and then moving forward...
Hand in hand, along the uncharted roads of your future,
ready to risk, to dream, and to dare....
Always believing that all things are possible
with faith
and love.
***

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart.
~ by Josiah G. Holland ~

What we need to know about loving is no great mystery. We all know what constitutes loving behavior; we need but act upon it, not continually question it. Over-analysis often confuses the issue and in the end brings us no closer to insight. We sometimes become too busy classifying, separating, and examining, to remember that love is easy. It's we who make it complicated.
~ by Leo Buscaglia ~

Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman, what excites her, and what surprises her. Its actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.
~ by Charles Stanley ( A Man's Touch) ~

From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow together, and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.
~ by Unknown ~

It is the things in common
that make relationships enjoyable,
but it is the little differences
that make them interesting.
~ by Todd Ruthman ~

Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
~ by Leo Buscaglia ~

My heart to you is given:
Oh, do give yours to me;
We'll lock them up together,
And throw away the key.
~ by Frederick Saunders ~

The heart is the place where we live our passions. It is frail and easily broken, but wonderfully resilient. There is no point in trying to deceive the heart. It depends upon our honesty for its survival.
~ by Leo Buscaglia (Born For Love) ~

There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved.
~ by George Sand ~

Love is an act of endless forgiveness
A tender look which becomes a habit.
~ by Peter Ustinov ~

The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvellous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.
~ by Sir Hugh Walpole ~

Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.
~ by Erich Fromm ~

Think about it, there must be higher love
Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above
Without it, life is a wasted time
Look inside your heart, I'll look inside mine.
~ by Steve Winwood ~

Love does not consist in gazing at each other
but in looking together in the same direction.
~ by Antoine de Saint-Exupery ~

You come to love not by finding the perfect person,
but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
~ by Sam Keen ~

Love is always bestowed as a gift --
freely, willingly, and without expectation....
We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
~ by Leo Buscaglia ~

Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.
~ by Elbert Hubbard ~

The most powerful symptom of love is a tenderness which becomes at times almost insupportable.
~ by Victor Hugo ~

Inside the heart of each and every one of us there is a longing to be understood by someone who really cares. When a person is understood, he or she can put up with almost anything in the world.
~ by Rev Ed Hird ~

True happiness and a fullness of joy can be found only in the tender and intimate relationships of the family. However earnestly we may seek success and happiness outside the home through work, leisure activities, or large bank accounts, we will never be fully satisfied emotionally until we develop deep and loving relationships.
~ by James J. Jones Ph.D. ~

Opposites attract, but after marriage, opposites attack. Most of the time, we are attracted to people who don't have the things that we have. Incompatibility is why we get married, but it's also used as a reason to divorce.
Incompatibility is just a lack of communication. If we just try to love [our spouse] the way we want to be loved, we are in trouble. Unless you communicate, it's difficult to know how to love another person.
~ by Dr. Charles Lowery ~

True love begins when nothing is looked for in return.
~ by Antoine De Saint-Exupery ~

In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.
~ by Janos Arany ~

Just because someone doesn't love you
in the way you want them to,
doesn't mean that they don't love you
with all they've got.
~ by Author unknown ~

Love withers with predictability; its very essence is surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever.
~ by Leo Buscaglia ~

Smile at each other, smile at your wife,
smile at your husband, smile at your children,
smile at each other--it doesn't matter who it is--
and that will help you to grow up in greater love
for each other.
~ by Mother Teresa ~

A man falls in love through his eyes,
a woman through her ears.
~ by Woodrow Wyatt ~
Love knows no reasons,
love knows no lies.
Love defies all reasons,
love has no eyes.
But love is not blind,
love sees but doesn't mind.
~ by Author unknown ~
Love is sometimes denied, sometimes lost,
sometimes unrecognized, but in the end,
always found with no regrets, forever valued
and kept treasured.
~ by Unknown ~

Sometimes we let affection,
go unspoken,
Sometimes we let our love
go unexpressed,
Sometimes we can't find words to tell
our feelings,
Especially towards those
we love the best.
~ by Author unknown ~

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.
~ by Pearl S. Buck ~

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
~ by 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ~

All love that has not friendship for its base,
is like a mansion built upon the sand.
~ by Ella Wheeler Wilcox ~

Love is the emblem of eternity: it confounds all notion of time: effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.
~ by Germaine De Stael ~

Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.
~ by Samuel Lover ~

The life and love we create is the life and love we live.
~ by Leo Buscaglia ~

Love looks through a telescope; envy through a microscope.
~ by Josh Billings ~

For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it. For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it. For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.
~ by Ivan Panin ~

Love puts the fun in together,
The sad in apart,
The hope in tomorrow,
The joy in the heart.
~ by Anonymous ~

A goal, a love and a dream give you total control over your body and your life.
~ by John Wayne Schlatter ~

Romantic love is a passionate spiritual-emotional-sexual attachment between a man and a woman that reflects a high regard for the value of each other's person.
~ by Nathaniel Branden ~

Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine desire to be with another which both attracts and heals.
~ by J. Isham ~

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
While loving someone deeply gives you courage.
~ by Lao Tzu ~

Even though there may be times
It seems I'm far away
Never wonder where I am
'Cause I am always by your side.
~ by Celine Dion (The Power of Love) ~

Things base and vile, holding no quantity,
Love can transpose to form and dignity.
Love looks not with the eye, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.
~ by William Shakespeare ~

A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason - and indeed all the sweets of life.
~ by Joseph Addison (The Spectator Magazine) ~

Love does not die easily.
It is a living thing.
It thrives in the face
of all life's hazards,
save one--neglect.
~ by James Bryden ~

Some pray to marry the man they love,
my prayer will somewhat vary:
I humbly pray to Heaven above
that I love the man I marry.
~ by Rose Stokes ~

The most eloquent silence; that of two mouths meeting in a kiss.
~ by Unknown ~

Love cannot endure indifference. It needs to be wanted. Like a lamp, it needs to be fed out of the oil of another's heart, or its flame burns low.
~ by Henry Ward Beecher ~
***
Since love grows within you, so beauty grows.
For love is the beauty of the soul.
~ by St. Augustine ~
***
What the heart gives away is never gone ...
It is kept in the hearts of others.
~ by Robin St. John ~
***
The human heart, at whatever age,
opens to the heart that opens in return.
~ by Maria Edgeworth ~
***
Accept the things
To which fate binds you and
Love the people with whom fate
Brings you together
But do so with all your heart.
~ by Marcus Aurelius ~
***
Love, you know, seeks to make happy rather than to be happy.
~ by Ralph Connor ~
***
Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.
~ by Thomas Fuller ~
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The night has a thousand eyes, And the day but one;
Yet the light of the bright world dies, With the dying sun.
The mind has a thousand eyes, And the heart but one;
Yet the light of a whole life dies, When love is done.
~ by Francis W. Bourdillon ~
***
Paradise is always where love dwells.
~ by Jean Paul F. Richter ~
***
True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.
~ Honore de Balzac ~
***
The greatest tragedy of life is not that men perish,
but that they cease to love.
~ by W. Somerset Maugham ~
***
My love, you know you are my best friend.
You know that I'd do anything for you
And my love, let nothing come between us.
My love for you is strong and true.
~ by Sarah McLachlan ~
***
I sought for Love
But Love ran away from me.
I sought my Soul
But my Soul I couldn't see.
Then I sought You,
And I found all three.
~ by Unknown Author ~
***
The best feelings are those that
Have no words to describe them....
~ by Michelle Hammersley ~
***
Let the world stop turning,
Let the sun stop burning,
Let them tell me love's not worth going through.
If it all falls apart,
I will know deep in my heart,
The only dream that mattered had come true
...In this life I was loved by you.
~ by Bette Midler ~
***
We are all born for love...
it is the principle existence and it's only end.
~ by Disraeli ~
***
We can only learn to love by loving.
~ by Iris Murdoch ~
***
May no gift be too small to give,
nor too simple to receive,
which is wrapped in thoughtfulness
and tied with love.
~ by L.O. Baird ~
***
Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.
~ by Oliver Wendell Holmes ~
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The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.
~ by Maulana Jalalu'ddin Rumi ~
***
Love is a fruit in season at all times,
and within the reach of every hand.
~ by Mother Teresa ~
***
You can give without loving,
But you cannot love without giving.
~ by Amy Carmichael ~
***
There are no guarantees.
From the viewpoint of fear,
None are strong enough.
From the viewpoint of love,
None are necessary.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.
~ by Karen Sunde ~
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Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself
But if your love and must needs have desires,
Let these be your desires:
• To melt and be like a running brook
• That sings its melody to the night.
• To know the pain of too much tenderness.
• To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
• And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
• To wake at dawn with a winged heart
• And give thanks for another day of loving;
• To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
• To return home at eventide with gratitude;
• And then to sleep with a prayer
• For the beloved in your heart
• And a song of praise upon your lips.
~ by Gibran Kahlil Gibran ~
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Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it .. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
~ by The Holy Bible, New International Version Ephesians 5:25-33 ~
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Love doesn't make the world go round,
Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
~ by Elizabeth Browning ~
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Love me without fear
Trust me without questioning
Need me without demanding
Want me without restrictions
Accept me without change
Desire me without inhibitions
For a love so free....
Will never fly away.
~ by Dick Sutphen ~
***
Love is a burning desire,
That makes your heart light on fire,
Love is being with you,
Someone saying I love you too,
Love is your tender kiss,
Something you don't want to miss,
Love is you and me,
And that is all I see.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
If I go away
What would still remain of me?
The ghost within your eyes?
The whisper in your sighs?
You see...Believe
And I'm always there.
~ by Jon Oliva ~
***
The greatest weakness of most humans
Is their hesitancy to tell others,
How much they love them
While they're alive.
~ by O.A. Battista ~
****
A heart that loves is always young.
~ by A Greek Proverb ~
To get the full value of joy
You must have someone to divide it with.
~ by Mark Twain ~
***
Love doesn't sit there like a stone.
It has to be made like bread;
Remade all the time,
...Made new.
~ by Le Guin ~
***
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep;
The more I give to thee
The more I have,
For both are infinite.
~ by William Shakespeare ~
***
Love is that condition in which
The happiness of another person
Is essential to your own.
~ by Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land ~
***
I only wish to be the fountain of love
From which you drink,
Every drop promising eternal passion.
~ by Unknown Author ~
***
If I know what love is,
It is because of you.
~ by Herman Hesse ~
***
You may only be one person to the world
But you may also be the world to one person.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
A part of you has grown in me.
And so you see, it's you and me
Together forever and never apart,
Maybe in distance, but never in heart.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Age does not protect us from love,
But love to some extent protects us from age.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Once in awhile,
Right in the middle of an ordinary life,
Love gives us a fairy tale.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
True poets don't write
Their thoughts with a pen...
They release the ink that flows
From within their heart.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
The only things in life you regret,
Are the risks that you didn't take.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
You love simply because you cannot help it.
~ by Kim Anderson ~
***
The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.
~ by Hubert Humprey ~
***
Hearts are not to be had as a gift
earts are to be earned...
~ by William Butler Yeats ~
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True love doesn't have a happy ending:
True love doesn't have an ending.
~ by Anonymous ~

You don't love a woman because she's beautiful,
She is beautiful because you love her.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Love is not a matter of counting the years...
But making the years count.
~ by Michelle St. Amand ~
***
Only love let's us see normal things
In an extraordinary way.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
The most precious possession that ever comes
To a man in this world
Is a woman's heart.
~ by Josiah G. Holland ~
***
And think not you can
Direct the course of love,
For love,
If it finds you worthy,
Directs your course.
~ by Gibran Kahlil Gibran ~
***
Love is a wonderful thing.
You never have to take it away
From one person to give it to another.
There's always more than enough to go around.
~ by Pamela de Roy ~
***
Love asks me no questions,
And gives me endless support...
~ by William Shakespeare ~
***
A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature
To stop speech when words become superfluous.
~ by Ingrid Bergman ~
***
Love is like a rumor,
Everyone talks about it,
But no one truly knows.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Love is like swallowing hot chocolate
Before it has cooled off.
It takes you by surprise at first,
But keeps you warm for a long time.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
My love for you is a journey;
Starting at forever,
And ending at never.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Love is a haunting melody
That I have never mastered
And I fear I never will.
~ by William S. Burroughs ~
***
A fool in love makes no sense to me.
I only think you are a fool
If you do not love.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Seduce my mind and you can have my body,
Find my soul and I'm yours forever.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
So dear I love him that with him,
All deaths I could endure.
Without him, live no life.
~ by William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet ~
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Love is like a friendship caught on fire.
In the beginning a flame, very pretty,
Often hot and fierce,
But still only light and flickering.
As love grows older,
Our hearts mature
And our love becomes as coals,
Deep-burning and unquenchable.
~ by Bruce Lee ~
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I have loved to the point of madness;
That which is called madness,
That which to me,
Is the only sensible way to love.
~ by F. Sagan ~
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She walks in beauty,
Like the night of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that's best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes.
~ by Byron ~
***
Your voice makes me tremble inside
And your smile is an invitation
For my imagination to go wild.
~ by Anonymous ~
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One word frees us
Of all the weight and pain in life,
That word is Love
~ by Socrates ~
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I have learned not to worry about love;
But to honor its coming with all my heart.
~ by Alice Walker ~
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To love a person is to learn the song
That is in their heart,
And to sing it to them
When they have forgotten.
~ by Anonymous ~
***
Did my heart love till now?
Forswear it sight,
For I ne'er saw true beauty till this night.
~ Romeo, Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare ~

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No man is truly married
until he understands
every word his wife is NOT saying.
~ by Unknown ~
***
You will never know true happiness
until you have truly loved,
and you will never understand
what pain really is
until you have lost it.
~ by Anonymous ~
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To live is like to love -
all reason is against it,
and all healthy instinct for it.
~ by Samuel Butler, Life and love ~
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....A simple I love you means more than money....
~ by Frank Sinatra ~
***
True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist,
Nor can it be hidden where it truly does.
~ by Anonymous ~
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Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage...
~ by Ambrose Bierce ~
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To be in love is merely to be
In a state of perpetual anesthesia:
To mistake an ordinary young man for a Greek god
Or an ordinary young woman for a goddess.
~ by H.L. Mencken ~
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Life without love is like a tree
Without blossom and fruit.
~ by Khalil Gibra ~
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I love thee, I love but thee
With a love that shall not die
Till the sun grows cold
And the stars grow old.
~ by Willam Shakespeare ~
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Love is like war,
Easy to begin but hard to end.
~ by Anonymous ~
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Other men said they have seen angels,
But I have seen thee
And thou art enough.
~ by G. Moore ~
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I would fly you to the moon and back if you'll be . . . if you'll be my baby.
~ From a song by Savage Garden ~
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I love you - those three words have my life in them.
~ by Alexandrea to Nicholas III ~
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What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
~ by Ralph Waldo Emerson ~
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I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for their religion -
I have shudder'd at it.
I shudder no more.
I could be martyr'd for my religion
Love is my religion
And I could die for that.
I could die for you.
~ by John Keats ~

I'd like to run away
From you,
But if you didn't come
And find me ...
I would die.
~ by Shirley Bassey ~

When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
~ by Elizabeth Bowen (1899-1973) ~
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The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From "Unforgettable with Love" by Natalie Cole

Soul meets soul on lover's lips.
~ by Percy Bysshe Shelly ~
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I have found men who didn't know how to kiss.
I've always found time to teach them.
~ by Mae West ~
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The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.
~ by Helen Keller ~
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The courses of true love never did run smooth.
~ by William Shakespeare ~
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But true love is a durable fire,
In the mind ever burning,
Never sick, never old, never dead,
From itself never turning.
~ by Sir Walter Raleigh ~
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Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Some people move our souls to dance. They awaken us to new understanding with the passing whisper of their wisdom.
Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon.
They stay in our lives for awhile, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never ever the same.
~ by Flavia Weedn ~
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If you can stand out here
on this hot Florida beach...
under this blaring hot sun...
on this hot summer day...
and smile at each other and profess your undying love and desire to BE husband and wife...
then you can stand through whatever life puts in your way
with the same smile and undying love and desire
AS husband and wife.
~ Rev. falonMOON~

***From "Goodridge Vs. Department of Health" by Massachusetts Supreme Court Chief Justice Margaret H. Marshall
Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. For those who choose to marry, and for their children, marriage provides an abundance of legal, financial, and social benefits. In return it imposes weighty legal, financial, and social obligations....Without question, civil marriage enhances the "welfare of the community." It is a "social institution of the highest importance." ... Marriage also bestows enormous private and social advantages on those who choose to marry. Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family.... Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life's momentous acts of self-definition.

***

Never Marry But For Love
William Penn



Never marry but for love; but see that thou lovest what is lovely. If love be not the chiefest motive, thou wilt soon grow weary of a married state and stray from thy promise, to search out thy pleasures in forbidden places...
Between a man and his wife nothing ought to rule but love ... As love ought to bring them together, so it is the best way to keep them well together.

A husband and wife that love and value one another show their children... that they should do so too. Others visibly lose authority in their families by their contempt of one another, and teach their children to be unnatural by their own examples.

Let not enjoyment lessen, but augment, affection; it being the basest of passions to like when we have not, what we slight when we possess.

Here it is we ought to search out our pleasure, where the field is large and full of variety, and of an enduring nature; sickness, poverty or disgrace being not able to shake it because it is not under the moving influences of worldly contingencies.

Nothing can be more entire and without reserve; nothing more zealous, affectionate and sincere; nothing more contented than such a couple, nor greater temporal felicity than to be one of them

***

"The Wedding Vow"
by Rebecca W.

You are not the air that I breathe,
You are the sweet scent that drifts upon it
You are not the sounds that I hear,
You are the music of my life
You are not the food that I need,
You are the nourishment of my soul
You are not my will to survive
You are my reason for living
It is with you that I experience the wonders of the world
It is with you that I triumph over the challenges in my path
It is your partnership that will lead me to the fulfillment of my dreams
It is your friendship that guides me as I learn and grow.
It is your patience and wisdom that calms my restless nature
It is through you that I know my true self
I do not take you for granted, I cherish you
I do not need you, I choose you
I choose you today in witness of all the people who love us
I choose you tomorrow in the privacy of our hearts
I choose you in strength and weakness
I choose you in health and in sickness
I choose you in joy and sorrow
I will choose you, over all others,
every day for all the days of my life


"Sonnet From The Portuguese XLIII"
by Elizabeth Barrett Browing (1806-1861)

"How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, - I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! - and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death."


"This Day I Married My Best Friend"
Author Unknown

"This day I married my best friend
...the one I laugh with as we share life's wondrous zest,
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best.
...the one I live for because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
...the one I love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole."


"Today I Married My Best Friend"
by Rachel Elizabeth Cooper (b.1977)

"Today I married my best friend,
Our bond complete, it hath no end,
We share one soul, we share one heart,
A perfect time - a perfect start.

With these rings we share together,
Love so close to last forever,
This special day - two special hearts,
Let nothing keep this love apart."

“Prayer of Love”
Author Unknown

“Our prayer for you is this:
That you will always remember the qualities
that attracted you to each other when you first met
and how you felt as your feelings of attraction
turned into respect, admiration and finally love.
That you will work hard to turn your feelings of love
into acts of love so that nothing and no one can divide you.
That you will always have kind and loving hearts
that are quick to ask for forgiveness when you are wrong
as well as to forgive when your partner is wrong.
That your love might grow to hear all things,
believe all things, and hope for all things, endure all things.
we pray you place your marriage in God’s hands,
and that your love increases and overflows,
beyond anything you can yet imagine.”


"Love's Philosophy"
by Percy Bysshe Shelley (1792-1822)

"The fountains mingle with the rivers
And the rivers with the oceans,
The winds of heaven mix forever
With a sweet emotion;
Nothing in the world is single;
All things by a law divine
In one spirit meet and mingle.
Why not I with thine?

See the mountains kiss high heaven
And the waves clasp one another;
No sister-flower would be forgiven
If it disdained its brother,
And the sunlight clasps the earth
And the moonbeams kiss the sea:
What is all this sweet work worth
If thou kiss not me?"


"What We Would Wish For You"

"I cannot say what we would wish for you and your marriage.
All of your dreams in life are your own and shall be fluid,
ebbing and flowing from shore to shore
as you discover the nature of each success and disappointment.
We cannot wish for you to know no sorrows in the years ahead,
for to never know sorrow would mean
that you would never be blessed with anything worth while.
We cannot wish for you a life without struggles,
for that would mean a life without achievement.
Yet we can wish that all the roads you travel
and the feelings experienced along the way
shall make your marriage stronger through the seasons.
That your home and your togetherness
shall forever remain a place of sanctuary and renewal
That you share more joys than sorrows
And that your relationship continues to grow and endure and inspire
Today we wish nothing more or less
than all that you hope and dream for yourselves.
And that it last for a lifetime."

"Foundations Of A Marriage”
by Regina Hill

“Marisa and Mitch have asked Marisa’s cousin Trina
to give their first reading.”

Trina comes forward, introduces and delivers the reading

“Love, Trust, and Forgiveness are the foundations of marriage. In marriage, many days will
bring happiness, while other days may be sad. But together, two hearts can overcome
everything...

In marriage, all of the moments won’t be exciting or romantic, and sometimes worries and
anxiety will be overwhelming. But together, two hearts that accept will find comfort together.

Recollections of past joys, pains, and shared feelings will be the glue that holds everything
together during even the worst and most insecure moments.

Reaching out to each other as a friend, and becoming the confidant and companion that the
other one needs, is the true magic and beauty of any two people together.

It’s inspiring in each other a dream or a feeling, and having faith in each other and not giving
up... even when all the odds say to quit.

It’s allowing each other to be vulnerable, to be himself or herself, even when the opinions or
thoughts aren’t in total agreement or exactly what you'd like them to be.

It’s getting involved and showing interest in each other, really listening and being available,
the way any best friend should be.

Exactly three things need to be remembered in a marriage if it is to be a mutual bond of
sharing, caring, and loving throughout life:

Love, Trust, and Forgiveness.”


"On Marriage"
by Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)

"Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone
though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."


"Blessing For A Marriage"
by James Dillet Freeman

"May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may
life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.

May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know
your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain
less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So
let it be with you and you.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another,
and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!"
and take no notice of small faults.

If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to
take the first step back.

May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more
physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when
you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another!"


"The Prayer"
by St. Francis of Assisi (1182-1226)

"Lord, make us instruments of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let us sow love;
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is discord, union;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, Grant that we may not so much seek
To be consoled as to console,
To be understood as to understand,
To be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
Amen"


"Sudden Light"
by Dante Gabriel Rossetti

"I have been here before,
But when or how I cannot tell;
I know the grass beyond the door,
The sweet keen smell,
The sighing sound, the lights around the shore.

You have been mine before,
How long ago I may not know:
But just when at that swallow's soar
Your neck turned so,
Some veil did fall, - - I knew it all of yore.

Has this been thus before?
And shall not thus time's eddying flight
Still with our lives our love restore
In death's despite,
And day and night yield one delight once more?"


"To Be One With Each Other"
by George Eliot (1819-1880)

"What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each other
in all labour, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the silent unspoken memories?"


"On Love"
by Thomas Ă  Kempis (1379-1471)

"Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good.
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth.
It bears every hardship as though it were nothing,
and renders all bitterness sweet and acceptable.

Nothing is sweeter than love,
Nothing stronger,
Nothing higher,
Nothing wider,
Nothing more pleasant,
Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth;
for love is born of God.

Love flies, runs and leaps for joy.
It is free and unrestrained.
Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.
Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil,
attempts things beyond its strength.

Love sees nothing as impossible,
for it feels able to achieve all things.
It is strange and effective,
while those who lack love faint and fail.

Love is not fickle and sentimental,
nor is it intent on vanities.
Like a living flame and a burning torch,
it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle."


"Traditional Pagan Blessing"
by Ed Fitch

"Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As time passes, remember...
Like a star should your love be constant,
Like the earth should your love be firm.
Possess one another, yet be understanding.
Have patience with each other,
For storms will come, and they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and of warmth.
Have no fear, and let not the ways or words of the
Unenlightened give you unease.
For the Old Gods are with you,
Now and always!"


"Traditional Irish Blessing"

"May the road rise to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

May God be with you and bless you;
May you see your children's children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.

May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you."


"The Blessing Of The Apaches"
(short form)

"Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth."


"Blessing of the Apache"
(Long version)

Now you will feel no rain,
for each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness,
for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons,
but there is only one life before you.
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead
and through all the years,
May happiness be your companion
and your days together be good and long upon the earth.
Treat yourselves and each other with respect,
and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness,
gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
When frustration, difficulties and fear
assail your relationship,
as they threaten all relationships at one time or another,
remember to focus on what is right between you,
not only the part which seems wrong.
In this way, you can ride out the storms
when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives
remembering that even if you lose sight of it,
for a moment the sun is still there.
And if each of you takes responsibility
for the quality of your life together,
it will be marked by abundance and delight."


"Apache Blessing"

"May the sun bring you new energy by day,
May the moon softly restore you by night,
May the rain wash away your worries
And the breeze blow new strength into your being,
And all of the days of your life may you walk
Gently through the world and know its beauty."


"Eskimo Love Song"

"You are my husband [wife]
My feet shall run because of you
My feet dance because of you
My heart shall beat because of you
My eyes see because of you
My mind thinks because of you
And I shall love because of you."


"Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love"
by Edmund O'Neill (b.1929)

"Marriage is a commitment to life,
the best that two people can find and bring out in each other.
It offers opportunities for sharing and growth
that no other relationship can equal.
It is a physical and an emotional joining
that is promised for a lifetime.

Within the circle of its love,
marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
A wife and a husband are each other's best friend,
confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic.
And there may come times when one partner
is heartbroken or ailing,and the love of the other
may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.
Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger,
even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid.
It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences,
and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage,
they create a spirit unique unto themselves
which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.
Marriage is a promise,
a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other
and takes a lifetime to fulfil."


"Navajo Wedding Blessing"

"Now you have lit a fire and that fire should not go out.
The two of you now have a fire that represents love,
understanding, and a philosophy of life.
It will give you heat, food, warmth and happiness.
The new fire represents a new beginning -
a new life and a new family.
The fire is to be kept burning; you are meant to stay together.
You have lit this fire for life, until only old age separates you."


"Traditional Shoshone Love Poem"

"Fair is the white star of twilight,
and the sky clearer at the day's end;
But she is fairer, and she is dearer, She, my heart's friend
Fair is the white star of twilight, and the moon roving to the sky's end.
But she is fairer, better worth loving, She, my heart's friend."


"Cherokee Prayer"

"God in heaven above please protect the ones we love.
We honour all you created as we pledge our hearts and lives together.
We honour mother-earth -
and ask for our marriage to be abundant
and grow stronger through the seasons;
We honour fire -
and ask that our union be warm
and glowing with love in our hearts;
We honour wind -
and ask we sail though life safe
and calm as in our father's arms;
We honour water -
to clean and soothe our relationship -
that it may never thirst for love;
With all the forces of the universe you created,
we pray for harmony and true happiness
as we forever grow young together.
Amen."


"From Love"
by Leo Buscaglia

"In discussing love, it would be well to consider the
following premises:

One cannot give what he does not possess.
To give love you must possess love.

One cannot teach what he does not understand.
To teach love you must comprehend love.

One cannot know what he does not study..
To study love you must live in love.

One cannot appreciate what he does not recognize.
To recognize love you must be receptive to love.

One cannot have doubt about that which he wishes to
trust. To trust love you must be convinced of love.

One cannot admit what he does not yield to.
To yield to love you must be vulnerable to love.

One cannot live what he does not dedicate himself to.
To dedicate yourself to love you must be forever growing in
love."


"The Day of Your Wedding"
Author Unknown

"Together you share the joy of a deep commitment
and the sacred trust.
You have given each other the most precious gift of love.
Treasure it, nurture it, and encourage it
with all the honesty you used in creating it.
You are sharing something rare and beautiful.
Always speak the truth, and listed attentively,
so that you may understand each other's thoughts
and intentions.
Inspire each other by sharing your accomplishments.
Say "I love you" often to retain the warmth between you.
Remember to laugh a lot, even when you're angry
After all, you're each other's best friend.
Stand together and for each other always:
be content in mind and spirit.
Make each day a blessing
and a fulfillment of your dreams."


"Your Love is Eternal"
Author Unknown
(This is wonderful for people with children.
There is a spot left blank to fill in how many they have)

"Your love for each other is bright and full of life-
Like a beacon in the darkest of nights-
Always there to guide you never losing your way-
Your love for each other is like a mountain,
strong and never ending-
Peaks and valleys intertwined as new beginnings-
Your love for each other is like the warmth of a fire-
Giving comfort on a cold night-
Your love for each other has nurtured a garden
bringing forth such beauty and fragrance-
With ____ of the most beautiful flowers in center bloom-
Your love for each other is like a gift-
Picked out thoughtfully and given freely-
Your love for each other is for a lifetime-
Being true to oneself is to always be true to each other-
Your love for each other is like no other-
Your hopes and dreams belong to you-
You will grow and learn with patience, respect and kindness-
That what you share with each other today
only gets better with time-
Like the finest of wines
or a beautiful painting with the most vibrant of colors-
Your love is Eternal"


"Namaste'"
by Rajender Krishan

This simple word
uttered with a gesture of folded hands
is among the finest salutations,
mankind has ever been able to vocalize.
It simply means:

I honor the place in you
In which the entire Universe dwells
That place of Love and Light
And of Truth and of Peace
When you are in that place in you
And I am in that place in me
We are One.


"Ithaka"
(translation/adaptation by Sarah Ban Breathnach)

"Pray that your journey be long,
full of many summer mornings
when with much pleasure and much joy
you anchor in harbors never seen before;
Browse through Phoenician markets,
to purchase exquisite treasures-
mother-of-pearl and coral, ebony and amber
and sensual perfumes of all kinds-
as much as you desire.
Visit many Egyptian cities, content
to sit at the feet of sages, eager
and open to receive learning.
Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Your arrival there is your destiny.
But do not hurry the journey at all; be patient.
Better that it lasts for many years-
longer than you can even imagine.
So that finally, when you reach this
sacred isle, you will be wise,
abundantly fulfilled by all you have gained along the way;
no longer expecting Ithaka to make you wealthy,
no longer needing Ithaka to make you rich.

Ithaka has given you the journey,
the chance to discover who you have always been.
Without Ithaka as your inspiration, you
never would have set out in search of Wholeness.

And should you find her poor, Ithaka did not deceive you.
Authentic as you have become, full of wisdom,
beauty and grace, enriched and enlightened by all you have experienced
You will finally understand what all of life's Ithakas truly mean."


"I Am Love"
Author Unknown

"Some say I can fly on the wind, yet I haven't any wings.
Some have found me floating on the open sea, yet I cannot swim.
Some have felt my warmth on cold nights, yet I have no flame.
And though you cannot see me,
I lay between two lovers at the hearth of fireplaces.
I am the twinkle in your child's eyes.
I am hidden in the lines of your mother's face.
I am your father's shield as he guards your home.
And yet Some say I am stronger than steel, yet I am as fragile as a tear.
Some have never searched for me, yet I am around them always.
Some say I die with loss, yet I am endless.
And though you cannot hear me, I dance on the laughter of children.
I am woven into the whispers of passion.
I am in the blessings of Grandmothers.
I embrace the cries of newborn babies.
And yet Some say I am a flower, yet I am also the seed.
Some have little faith in me, yet I will always believe in them.
Some say I cannot cure the ill, yet I nourish the soul.
And though you cannot touch me, I am the gentle hand of the kind.
I am the fingertips that caress your cheek at night.
I am the hug of a child.
I am love...."

“Two Happy Lovers…”
by Pablo Neruda
"Two happy lovers make one bread,
a single moon drop in the grass.
Walking, they cast two shadows that flow together;
waking, they leave one sun empty in their bed.
Of all the possible truths, they chose the day;
they held it, not with ropes but with an aroma.
They did not shred the peace; they did not shatter words;
their happiness is a transparent tower.
The air and wine accompany the lovers.
The night delights them with its joyous petals.
They have a right to all the carnations.
Two happy lovers, without an ending, with no death,
they are born, they die, many times while they live:
they have the eternal life of the Natural."


"Aztec Wedding Prayer"

"I know not whether thou has been absent:
I lie down with thee, I rise up with thee,
In my dreams thou art with me.
When sweet sounds tremble in my ears,
I know it is thou moving within my heart"


“Looking For Your Face”
by The 13th century Sufi Poet, Jelaludden Rumi,

“From the beginning of my life I have been looking for your face, but today I have seen it.
Today I have seen the charm, the beauty, the unfathomable grace of the face that I was looking
for. Today I have found you, and those who laughed and scorned me yesterday are sorry that
they were not looking as I did. I am bewildered by the magnificence of your beauty, and wish
to see you with a hundred eyes. My heart has burned with passion and has searched forever
for this wondrous beauty that I now behold. I am ashamed to call this love human, and afraid
of God to call it divine. Your fragrant breath, like the morning breeze, has come to the stillness
of the garden. You have breathed new life into me. I have become your sunshine, and also your
shadow. My soul is screaming in ecstasy. Every fiber of my being is in love with you. Your
effulgence has lit a fire in my heart, and you have made radiant for me the earth and sky. My
arrow of love has arrived at the target. I am in the house of mercy, and my heart is a place of
prayer.”


"Commitment Poem of the Pueblo Indian"
author unknown

"Before we met, you and I were halves unjoined except in the wide rivers of our minds. We
were each other's distant shore, the opposite wings of a bird, the other half of a seashell. We
did not know the other then, did not know our determination to keep alive the cry of one
riverbank to the other. We were apart, Yet connected in our ignorance of each other, like two
apples sharing a common tree. Remember?

I knew you existed long before you understood my desire to join my
freedom to yours. Our paths collided long enough for our indecision
to be swallowed up by the greater need of love. When you came to me,
the sun surged towards the earth and moon escaped from darkness to
bless the union of two spirits, so alike that the creator had
designed them for life's endless circle.

Beloved partner, keeper of my heart's odd secrets, clothed in summer blossoms so the icy hand
of winter never touches us. I thank your patience. Our joining is like a tree to earth, a cloud to
sky and even more. We are the reason the world can laugh on its battlefields and rise from the
ashes of its selfishness to hear me say, in this time, this place, this way - I loved you best of
all."

“This Marriage”
Poem by Mawlawi Rumi

“May these vows and this marriage be blessed.
May it be sweet milk,
this marriage, like wine and halvah.
May this marriage offer fruit and shade
like the date palm.
May this marriage be full of laughter,
every day a day in paradise.
May this marriage be a sign of compassion,
a seal of happiness here and hereafter.
May this marriage have a fair face and a good name,
an omen as welcome
as the moon in a clear blue sky.
I am out of words to describe
how spirit mingles in this marriage.”

Sonnet XVII
By Pablo Neruda

“I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way

than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close it is your eyes that close as I fall asleep.”


From “The Divine Comedy”
by Dante Alligeri

“The love of God, unutterable and perfect,
Flows into a pure soul the way that light
Rushes into a transparent object.

The more love that it finds, the more it gives
Itself; so that, as we grow clear and open,
The more complete the joy of loving is.

And the more souls who resonate together,
The greater the intensity of their love,
For, mirror-like, each soul reflects the others.”


Navajo Prayer

"When you were children, you talked like children, But now that you've grown, you should be
done with childish things and put them away. When you were children, you looked into a
mirror that gave only a blurred reflection of reality. But with love and maturity, you shouldn't
be afraid to look into that mirror and see each other face to face. Be swift like the wind in
loving each other. Be brave like the sea in loving each other. Be gentle like the breeze in
loving each other. Be patient like the sun who waits and watches the four changes of the earth
in loving each other. Be wise like the roaring of the thunder clouds and lightning in loving
each other. Be shining like the morning dawn in loving each other. Be proud like the tree who
stands without bending in loving each other. Be brilliant like the rainbow colors in loving each
other. Now, forever, forever, there will be no more loneliness because your worlds are joined
together with the world. Forever, forever."

The Buddhist Scriptures;
The Buddha's Sermon At Rajagaha; Verses 19-22

"Do not deceive, do not despise each other anywhere. Do not be angry nor bear secret
resentments; for as a mother will risk her life and watches over her child, so boundless be your
love to all, so tender, kind and mild.

Cherish good will right and left, early and late, and without hindrance, without stint, be free of
hate and envy, while standing and walking and sitting down, what ever you have in mind, the
rule of life that is always best is to be loving-kind."

Druidic Vow

"We swear by peace and love to stand
Heart to heart, and hand in hand.
Mark, O Spirit, and hear us now,
Confirming this our Sacred Vow."

The Hindu Scriptures;
The Brihadaranyaka Upanishad; Selected Verses

"A wife loves her husband not for his own sake, dear one, but because the Divine Beloved
lives in him. A Husband loves his wife not for her own sake, dear one, but because the Divine
Beloved lives in her. Children are loved not for their own sake, dear one, but because the
Divine Beloved lives in them... All things are loved not for their own sake, but because the
Divine Beloved lives in them. The Divine Beloved must be realized. Hearing about and
meditating upon the Divine Beloved, you will come to understand everything in life...

As long as there is the sense of separateness, one sees another as separate from oneself... But
when the Divine Beloved is realized as the indivisible unity of life, who can be seen by
whom... who can be spoken to by whom, who can be thought of by whom, who can be known
by whom?"

From Pope John Paul II

"You will reciprocally promise love, loyalty, and matrimonial honesty. We only want for you
this day that these words constitute the principle of your entire life; and that with the help of
the divine grace you will observe these solemn vows that today, before God, you formulate."

Genesis 2:15-24

"The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to till it and keep it. And the
LORD God commanded the man, saying, "You may freely eat of every tree of the garden; but
of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it
you shall die." Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will
make him a helper fit for him." So out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the
field and every bird of the air, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them;
and whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to
all cattle, and to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for the man there was
not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and
while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib which the
LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then
the man said, "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called
Woman, because she was taken out of Man." Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother
and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh."

Ruth 1:16-17

"But Ruth said, "Entreat me not to leave you or to return from following you; for where you go
I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my
God; where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the LORD do so to me and more
also if even death parts me from you."

Proverbs 18:22

"Who so findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD."

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the
one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another
to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm
alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not
quickly broken."

Song Of Solomon 2:10-13

"My beloved speaks and says to me: "Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away; for lo, the
winter is past, the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing
has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land. The fig tree puts forth its figs,
and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come
away."

Song Of Solomon 8:6-7

"Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; for love is strong as death, jealousy
is cruel as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot
quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house,
it would be utterly scorned."

Matthew 19:4-6

"He answered, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male
and female and said, for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his
wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. "

Mark 10:6-9, 13-16

"But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man
shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man
put asunder." … And they were bringing children to him, that he might touch them; and the
disciples rebuked them. But when Jesus saw it he was indignant, and said to them, "Let the
children come to me, do not hinder them; for to such belongs the kingdom of God. Truly, I say
to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it." And he
took them in his arms and blessed them, laying his hands upon them."

John 2:1-1

"On the third day there was a marriage at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there;
Jesus also was invited to the marriage, with his disciples. When the wine failed, the mother of
Jesus said to him, "They have no wine." And Jesus said to her, "O woman, what have you to
do with me? My hour has not yet come." His mother said to the servants, "Do whatever he tells
you." Now six stone jars were standing there, for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding
twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, "Fill the jars with water." And they filled them up
to the brim. He said to them, "Now draw some out, and take it to the steward of the feast." So
they took it. When the steward of the feast tasted the water now become wine, and did not
know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward of
the feast called the bridegroom and said to him, "Every man serves the good wine first; and
when men have drunk freely, then the poor wine; but you have kept the good wine until now."
This, the first of his signs, Jesus did at Cana in Galilee, and manifested his glory; and his
disciples believed in him."

John 15:9-12

"As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my
commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and
abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your
joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you."

1 Corinthians 13:1-13

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a
clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all
knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain
nothing. Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong,
but rejoices in the right. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things. Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease;
as for knowledge, it will pass away. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is
imperfect; but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. When I was a child, I
spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave
up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part;
then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. So faith, hope, love abide,
these three; but the greatest of these is love."

Ephesians 5:1-2, 21-33

"Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and
gave himself up for us a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God…Be subject to one another out
of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is
the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. As
the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he
might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might
present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she
might be holy and without blemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their own
bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hates his own flesh, but
nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two
shall become one flesh." This mystery is a profound one, and I am saying that it refers to
Christ and the church; however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife
see that she respects her husband."

Colossians 3:12-19

"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness,
meekness, and patience, forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another,
forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all
these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of
Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in the one body. And be thankful.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teach and admonish one another in all wisdom, and
sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And
whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks
to God the Father through him. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit
in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them."

I Ching

"When two people are at one
in their inmost hearts,
they shatter even the strength of iron or bronze.
And when two people understand each other
in their inmost hearts,
their words are sweet and strong,
like the fragrance of orchids."

Bhagavad Gita

"Look to this day,
For it is life,
The very life of life.
In its brief course lie all the varieties
And realities of your existence;
The bliss of growths
The glory of action,
The splendor of beauty;
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today well lived makes
Every yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Look well, therefore, to this day.
Such is the salvation of the dawn."


Song of Solomon 7:10-12 "Growing in Love"

"I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me.
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field;
let us lodge in the villages.
Let us get up early to the vineyards;
let us see if the vine flourish,
whether the tender grape appear,
and the pomegranates bud forth:
there will I give thee my loves."

Song of Solomon 2:10-13

"My lover spoke and said to me,
"Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me.
See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone.
Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come.
The cooing of doves is heard in our land.
The fig tree forms its early fruit;
the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.
Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me."

The Koran

"O believers, be in awe of God,
and believe in His Messenger,
and He will give you a twofold portion of His mercy,
and He will appoint for you a light
whereby you shall walk, and forgive you;
God is All-Forgiving, All-Compassionate;
that the People of the Book may know
that they have no power over anything of God's bounty,
and that bounty is in the hand of God;
He gives it unto whomsoever He will;
and God is of bounty abounding."


The Koran: Chapter, The Women

"O ye mankind!
Reverence your Lord
Who made you from a single being,
and from that being He made its mate,
And from the twain He caused to spread
Many men and many women;
And reverence God
By Whom you question one another
And (pay respect to) the ties of relationship.
Surely, God watches over you."


The Qur'an (9:71-72)

"It requires that a husband and wife should be as garments for each other. Just as garments are
for protection, comfort, show and concealment for human beings, Allah expects husbands and
wives to be for one another.
And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends of one another; they enjoin the right
and forbid the wrong, and they establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey
Allah and His messenger; as for those, Allah will have mercy on them; Lo! Allah is Mighty,
Wise. Allah hath promised to believers - men and women - gardens under which rivers flow, to
dwell therein, and beautiful mansions in gardens of everlasting bliss; but the greatest bliss is
the good pleasure of Allah: This is the supreme felicity."


The Qur'an (30:21)

"Among His signs is [the fact] that He has created spouses for you among yourselves so that
you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has planted love and mercy between you; In
that are signs for people who reflect."

Based on the “Tao Te Ching”
by Lao Tzu

“Explore and discover that which is within.
When we find ourselves, we are more easily found by others.
Without words, without even understanding,
lovers find each other.
The moment of finding is always a surprise,
like meeting an old friend never before known.
Life and marriage are a wondrous journey,
ever unfolding an opportunity
to rediscover ourselves and our beloved
again and again for even on a shared journey
the only thing constant is change.
Embrace it and let it lead you
to many a glorious tomorrow.”

Based on the Hindu 7 steps

“Marriage has in it the power to form a circle of family
that includes all who are touched by the warmth
of the love shared by a loving husband and wife,
creating a common ground of uncommon richness.
May your marriage bring your souls an abundance
of spiritual and physical nourishment.
May you be strong enough to balance one another,
caring and giving enough to complement one another.
May you be prosperous in all ways, ever appreciative,
and grateful for all the gifts your marriage has brought.
May you see your children grow and thrive.
And may you live your lives together in perfect harmony,
As partners, lovers, parents, teachers and best friends.”

From The Lost Sutras of Jesus
Christian monks who lived and worked in China from the 6th century on

“Love leads to truth; perfect love to perfect truth.
Truth is like the moon reflected in the water;
when the water is stirred up and muddy,
the image is blurred and indistinct,
so it is with human beings when our spirit is clouded.
Let your love be a pure compassion for one another,
without seeking its own glory,
let it be true in your own hearts.
Let your spirits guide you
to what is right and true and just.
This is the way love leads us.”

The Couple's Tao Te Ching: Always Return
Lao Tzu, sixth century B.C.E.

"It is good to know your strength
But always return to your flexibility
If you cradle your beloved in your arms
In nurturing gentleness,
Love will flow through you.

It is good to achieve things
But always return to anonymity.
Your beloved does not need your achievements
But needs your uncomplicated soul.

It is good to work for change,
But always return to what is.
If you accept all things whether painful or joyful
You will always know
That you belong to each other."

Below is a link to a wonderful website with HUGE list of prayers
from all over the world
"http://1stholistic.com/Spl_prayers/default.htm"


From "The Prophet"
by Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)

"Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with
thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger,
and you seek him for peace.

When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you with
hold the "aye." And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart; For without
words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy
that is unclaimed.

When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be
clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.

And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks
aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the
unprofitable is caught.

And let your best be for your friend. If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood
also. For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill? Seek him always with
hours to live. For it is his to fill your need, but not your emptiness. And in the sweetness of
friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the
heart finds its morning and is refreshed."


From "Gift From The Sea"
by Anne Morrow Lindbergh (b.1906)

"When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from
moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly
what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of
relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will
never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity
possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers
are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in
hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia,
nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship
and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what
they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and
continually visited and abandoned by the tides."


From "A Natural History Of Love"
by Diane Ackerman

"Love. What a small word we use for an idea so immense and powerful. It has altered the flow
of history, calmed monsters, kindled works of art, cheered the forlorn, turned tough guys to
mush, consoled the enslaved, driven strong women mad, glorified the humble, fueled national
scandals, bankrupted robber barons, and made mincemeat of kings. How can love's
spaciousness be conveyed in the narrow confines of one syllable? Love is an ancient delirium,
a desire older than civilization, with taproots spreading into deep and mysterious days. The
heart is a living museum. In each of its galleries, no matter how narrow or dimly lit, preserved
forever like wondrous diatoms, are our moments of loving, and being loved."


From "The Hymn Of The Universe"
by Teilhard De Chardin

"Only love can bring individual beings to their perfect completion, as individuals, by uniting
them one with another, because only love takes possession of them and unites them by what lies
deepest within them. This is simply a fact of our everyday experience. For indeed at what
moment do lovers come into the most complete possession of themselves if not when they say
that they are lost in one another? And is not love all the time achieving - in couples, in teams,
all around us - the magical and reputedly contradictory feat of personalizing through
totalizing? And why should not what is thus daily achieved on a small scale be repeated one
day on worldwide dimensions?

Humanity, the spirit of the earth, the synthesis of individuals and peoples, the paradoxical
conciliation of the element with the whole, of the one with the many: all these are regarded as
Utopian fantasies, yet they are biologically necessary; and if we would see them made flesh in
the world what more need we do than imagine our power to love growing and broadening, till
it can embrace the totality of human beings and of the earth?"


From "The Prophet"
by Kahlil Gibran

"Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart
and a song of praise on your lips."


From "The Strength To Love"
by Dr.Martin Luther King, Jr.

"The meaning of love is not to be confused with some sentimental outpouring. Love is
something much more than emotional bosh... An overflowing love which seeks nothing in
return,[agape] is the love of God operating in the human heart... Love is the most durable
power in the world. This creative force, so beautifully exemplified in the life of our Christ, is
the most potent instrument available in mankind's quest for peace and security... The great
military leaders of the past have gone, and their empires have crumbled and burned to ashes.
But the empire of Jesus, built solidly and majestically on the foundation of love, is still
growing."


From "Know Thyself, Know Thyself More Deeply"
by D.H. Lawrence

"Go deeper than love, for the soul has greater depths,
love is like the grass, but the heart is deep wild rock
molten, yet dense and permanent.
Go down to your deep old heart, and lose sight of yourself.
And lose sight of me, the me whom you turbulently loved.
Let us lose sight of ourselves, and break the mirrors.
For the fierce curve of our lives is moving again to the depths
out of sight, in the deep living heart."


From "A Song for Hyawatha"

"Come join us in celebration, those who love sunshine on meadow
Who love shadow of the forest,
love the wind among the branches and the palisades of pine trees,
and the thunder in the mountains whose innumerable echoes
flap like eagles in their eries.

Listen to this song of marriage.
How, from another tribe and country came a young man saying,
"give me as my wife this maiden, and our hands be clasped more closely,
and our hearts be more united."

Thus it is, our daughters leave us, those we love and those who love us.
When a youth with flaunting feathers beckons to the fairest maiden.

From the sky the sun benignant looked upon them through the branches, Saying to them, "oh,
my children life is checkered shade and sunshine."

The two figures man and woman Standing hand in hand together,
with their hands so clasped together that they seem in one united.
And the words thus represented are, "I see your heart within you."

Sing them songs of love and longing
Now, let's feast and be more joyous."


From "The Velveteen Rabbit"
by Marjory Williams

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were
lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came
to tidy the room. "Does it mean having
things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a
thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long,
long time, not just to play with, but Really
loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always
truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked,
"or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You
become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen
often to people who break easily, or have sharp
edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the
time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and
your eyes drop out and you get all loose in
the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at
all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to
people who don't understand."


From "The Prophet"
By Kahlil Gibran

"And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said,
'Speak to us of Children.'
And he said:
'Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable."


From "The Last Temptation of Christ"
By Nikos Kazantzakis

"When the kings had died, a pauper, barefoot and hungry, came and sat on the throne. 'God'
he whispered, 'the eyes of man cannot bear to look directly at the sun, for they are blinded.
How then, Omnipotent, can they look directly at you? Have pity, Lord; temper your strength,
turn down your splendor so that I, who am poor and afflicted may see you!' Then - listen, old
man - God became a piece of bread, a cup of cool water, a warm tunic, a hut, and in front of
the hut, a woman feeding an infant. 'Thank you, Lord,' he whispered. 'You have humbled
yourself for my sake. You became bread, water, a warm tunic and my wife and son in order
that I may see you. And I did see you. I bow down and worship your beloved many-faced face!'"


From "Union"
by Robert Fulghum

"You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment.
At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed,
you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations
that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that
began with "When we're married" and continued with "I will and you will and we will" - those
late night talks that included "someday and somehow and maybe"- and all those promises that
are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of
a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another,
"You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every
word." Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have
been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner,
and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now
you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite
be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband,
this- is my wife "


From "Corelli's Mandolin"
by Louise De Bernieres

"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides
you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined
together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is
not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal
passion... That is just being "in love," which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over
when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident."


From "Everything is Illumanated"
by Jonathan Safran Foer

The 120 Marriages of Joseph and Sarah L

The young couple first married on August 5, 1744, when Joseph was eight and Sarah six, and
first ended their marriage six days later when Joseph refused to believe, to Sarah's frustration,
that the stars were silver nails in the sky, pinning up the black nightscape. They remarried four
days later, when Joseph left a note under the door of Sarah's parents' house: I have considered
everything you told me, and I do believe that the stars are silver nails. They ended their
marriage again a year later, when Joseph was nine and Sarah seven, over a quarrel about the
nature of the bottom of the river bed. A week later, they were remarried, including this time in
their vows that they should love each other until death, regardless of the existence of the
riverbed, the temperature of the river bed's bottom (should it exist), and the possible existence
of starfish on the possibly existing riverbed. They ended their marriage one hundred and twenty
times throughout their lives and each time remarried with a longer list of vows. They were sixty
and fifty-eight at their last marriage, only three weeks before Sarah died of heart failure and
Joseph drowned himself in the bath. Their marriage contract still hangs over the door of the
house they on-and-off shared-nailed to the top post and brushing against the SHALOM
welcome mat:

"It is with everlasting devotion that we, Joseph and Sarah L, reunite in the indestructible union
of matrimony, promising love until death, with the understanding that the stars are silver nails
in the sky, regardless of the existence of the bottom of the river, the temperature of this bottom
(should it exist) and the possible existence of starfish on the possibly existing riverbed,
overlooking what may or may not have been accidental grape juice spills, agreeing to forget
that Joseph played sticks and balls with his friends when he promised he would help Sarah
thread the needle for the quilt she was sewing, and that Sarah was supposed to give the quilt to
Joseph, not his buddy, ignoring the simple fact that Joseph snores like a pig, and that Sarah is
no great treat to sleep with either, letting slide certain tendencies of both parties to look too
long at members of the opposite sex, not making a fuss over why Joseph is such a slob, leaving
his clothes wherever he feels like taking them off, expecting Sarah to pick them up, clean them,
and put them in their proper place as he should have, or why Sarah has to be such a pain
about the smallest things, such as which way the toilet paper unrolls, or when dinner is five
minutes later than she was planning, because, let's face it, it's Joseph who's putting that paper
on the roll and dinner on the table, disregarding whether the beet is a better vegetable that the
cabbage, putting aside the problems of being fat-headed and chronically unreasonable, trying
to erase the memory of a long since expired rose bush that a certain someone was supposed to
remember to water when his wife was visiting family, accepting the compromise of the way we
have been, the way we are, and the way we will likely be. May we live together in unwavering
love and good health. Amen"


"Oh the Places You'll Go"
by Dr Seuss

"Congratulations! Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places! You're off and away!
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the couple who'll decide where to go.
You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "We don't choose to go there."
With your heads full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
You're too smart to go down, any not-so-good street.
And you may not find any you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course, you'll head straight out of town.
It's opener there in the wide open air,
Out there things can happen and frequently do
to people as brainy and footsy as you.
And when things start to happen, don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along. You'll start happening too.

OH! THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on your way up! You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers who soar to great heights!
You won't lag behind, because you'll have all the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang, and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly you'll be best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.
Except when you don't. Because sometimes, you won't.
You'll get mixed up of course, as you already know.
You'll get mixed up with so many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with great care and great tact
and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will indeed!
(98 and ľ percent guaranteed.)

KIDS, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So, be your name Buxbaum or Dowrie or Bass
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to great places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So get on your way!"


From “Letters To A Young Poet”  
by Rainer Maria Rilke

Marriage is in many ways a simplification of life, and it naturally combines the strengths and
wills of two young people so that, together, they seem to reach farther into the future than they
did before. Above all, marriage is a new task and a new seriousness, - a new demand on the
strength and generosity of each partner.

The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on
the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the
guardian of their solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging
of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual
consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once
the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a
marvelous living side by side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse
between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and
before an immense sky.

Life is self-transformation, and human relationships, which are an extract of life, are the most
changeable of all, they rise and fall from minute to minute, and lovers are those for whom no
moment is like any another. People between whom nothing habitual ever takes place, nothing
that has already existed, but just what is new, unexpected, unprecedented. There are such
connections, which must be a very great, an almost unbearable happiness, but they can occur
only between very rich beings, between those who have become, each for his own sake, rich,
calm, and concentrated; only if two worlds are wide and deep and individual can they be
combined....


From “Instructions For Life In The New Millennium”
by His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama

“Take into account that great love
and great achievements involve great risk.
And that a loving atmosphere in your home
is the foundation for your life.
Be gentle with the earth, be gentle with one another.
When disagreements come remember always
to protect the spirit of your union.
When you realize you’ve made a mistake,
take immediate steps to correct it.
Remember that the best relationship is one
in which your love for each other
exceeds your need for each other.
So love yourselves, love one another,
love all that is your life together and all else will follow.”


From “The Red Tent”
by Anita Diamant

“Isaac my father, told me that he had never taken any woman to his bed but my mother.
Rebecca had welcomed him with tenderness and passion when they were first married because
as her groom, he treated her as though she were the Queen of Heaven and he her Consort.
Their joining was the union of the sea and the sky, of the rain and the parched earth, of night
and day, wind and water. Their nights were filled with stars and sighs as they played the part
of Goddess and God. Their touches engendered a thousand dreams. They slept in each others
arms every night that was possible from that night on. That was my father’s teaching about
husbands and wives said Jacob, my father, to Leah, my mother, on their first night together.”

Excerpt from "The Bridge Across Forever"
by Richard Bach

"A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel
safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly
who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each
unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one
person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest
longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up,
chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to
life."

Adapted from "Plato’s Symposium"

"Humans have never understood the power of Love, for if they had they would surely have built
noble temples and altars and offered solemn sacrifices; but this is not done, and most certainly
ought to be done, since Love is our best friend, our helper, and the healer of ills.

Once upon a time, human beings each had two sets of arms, two sets of legs, and two faces
looking in opposite directions.  Due to the power of these original humans, the gods began to
fear that their reign might be threatened.  So, in a manner not unlike the powers that be do so
today, Zeus divided the humans in half.  He split their power, so that he and the other gods
may do what they wish.  

But the gods are not completely efficient.  After the division the two parts of each desiring their
other half, came together, and throwing their arms about one another, entwined in mutual
embraces, longing to grow into one. This parable is meant to evoke how ancient is the desire of
one another implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, making one of two, and healing the
state of humankind.

When separated, having one side only, we are always looking for our other half.  And when
one of us meets our other half, we are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and
intimacy, and would not be out of the other’s sight even for a moment. We should pass our
whole lives together, desiring that we should be melted into one, to spend our lives as one
person instead of two, and so that after our death there will be one departed soul instead of
two; this is the very expression of our ancient need. And the reason is that human nature was
originally one and we were a whole, and the desire and pursuit of the whole is called Love.

If you are both willing to make real the ideals that confer meaning onto your vow to see
differences as a means to a more inclusive and universal Love, join hands and make known
your love."


Adapted from“To My Wife”
by T.S. Eliot

"Be to whom each owes the leaping delight
That quickens the senses in your waking time
And the rhythm that governs the repose of sleeping time,
The breathing in unison

Of lives whose bodies smell of each other
Who think the same thoughts without need of speech
And babble the same speech without the need of meaning

No peevish winter wind shall chill
No sullen tropic sun shall wither
The roses in the rose-garden which is yours and yours only."


From “The Irrational Season”
by Madeleine L’Engle

“But ultimately there comes a moment when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people
who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and
deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take… It is indeed a fearful gamble… Because
it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created, so that,
together we become a new creature.

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take…
If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of
freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of
love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation… It takes a
lifetime to learn another person… When love is not possession, but participation, then it is part
of that co-creation which is our human calling, and which implies such risk that it is often
rejected.”


From "Maktub"
by Palo Coelho

“In this world there is always
one person waiting for another,
be it in the middle of a desert
or in the middle of a big city.
And when those people pass each other
and their eyes meet,
past and future lose all importance,
and the only thing that exists
is that moment and the incredible certainty
that everything under the sun
was written by the same Hand,
the Hand that awakens Love,
and that makes a twin soul for everyone who works,
rests and seeks treasure under the sun.
Without this our human dreams
would make no sense.”


From "The Little Prince"
by Antoine de Saint Exupery

“One only understands the things that one tames,” said the fox. So the little prince tamed the
fox. And the fox said, “And now here is my secret. a very simple secret: It is only with the heart
that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

“What is essential is invisible to the eye,” the little prince repeated,
so that he would be sure to remember.

“It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important.”

“It is the time I have wasted for my rose -”
said the little price so that he would be sure to remember.

“Men have forgotten this truth,” said the fox. “But you must not forget it. You become
responsible, forever, for what you have tamed. You are responsible for your rose.”

“I am responsible for my rose,” the little prince repeated.
so that he would be sure to remember.


From "Jazz"
by Toni Morrison

“It’s nice when grown people whisper to each other under the covers.  Their ecstasy is more
leaf-sigh than bray and the body is the vehicle, not the point.  They reach, grown people, for
something beyond, way beyond and way, way down underneath tissue.  They are remembering
while they whisper the carnival doll they won and the Baltimore boats they never sailed on.  
The pears they let hang on the limb because if they plucked them, they would be gone from
there and who else would see that ripeness if they took it away for themselves?  How could
anybody passing by see them and imagine for themselves what the flavor would be like?  
Breathing and murmuring under covers both of them have washed and hung out on the line, in
a bed they chose together and kept together never mind one leg was propped on a 1916
dictionary and the mattress, curved like a preacher’s palm asking for witnesses in His names’s
sake, enclosed them each and every night and muffled their whispering, old-time love.  They
are under the covers because they don’t have to look at themselves anymore; there is no stud’s
eye, no chippie glance to undo them.  They are inward toward the other, bound and joined by
carnival dolls and the steamers that sailed from ports they never saw.  That is what is beneath
their undercover whispers.

But there is another part, not so secret.  The part that touches fingers when one passes the cup
and saucer to the other.   The part that closes her neckline snap while waiting for the trolley,
and brushes lint from his blue serge suit when they come out of the movie house into the
sunlight.

I envy them their public love.  I myself have only known it in secret, shared it in secret and
longed, aw longed to show it – to be able to say out loud what they have no need to say at all:
That I have loved only you, surrendered my whole self reckless to you and nobody else.  That I
want you to love me back and show it to me.  I like your fingers on and on, lifting, turning.  I
have watched your face for a long time now, and missed your eyes when you went away from
me.  Talking to you and hearing you answer – that’s the kick.”


From "To Know Yourself"
by Swami Satchidananda

"A wedding is between two reflections of God. Two pairs of eyes see one vision. They are
dedicated to serve one another and the humanity at large. Two minds come together to help
each other realize their true nature. Going side by side with the right partner is a good way to
reach God quickly. When the husband's and the wife's love for each other blends together and
becomes love of God, marriage is a divine institution."


Excerpt from "A Gift From The Sea"
by Ann Morrow Lindbergh

"A good relationship has a pattern like dance. The partners do not need to hold
on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate, but
swift and free. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging
arm, the heavy hand. Because they know they are partners, moving to the same
rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it. The
joy of such a pattern is not only the joy of creation, or the joy of
participation, it is also the joy of living in the moment. One cannot dance
well unless one is completely in time with the music, not leaning back to the
last step, or pressing forward to the next one, but poised directly on the
present step as it comes. But how does one learn this technique of the dance?
Why is it so difficult? What makes us hesitate and stumble? It is fear, I think,
that makes one cling nostalgically to the last moment, or clutch greedily toward
the next. Fear can only be exorcised by its opposite... love. When the heart
is flooded with love there is no room in it for fear, for doubt, for hesitation.
And it is this lack of fear that makes for the dance. The partners only know
that they love, and are moving to its music."


From "The Divine Comedy"
by Dante Alligeri

"The love of God, unutterable and perfect,
Flows into a pure soul the way that light
Rushes into a transparent object.

The more love that it finds, the more it gives
Itself; so that, as we grow clear and open,
The more complete the joy of loving is.

And the more souls who resonate together,
The greater the intensity of their love,
For, mirror-like, each soul reflects the others."


From the Icelandic Sagas

"This comes from a retelling of the Sagas that was written in 1909.
It is the ending to the story of Ingebjorg and Frithiof. They were
lovers who, in the true romantic style, had to overcome the crosses
of birth right and station in life, the objections and concerns of
family, and the trials of the hero's journey. It was a journey that
their love and their will to be together, would ultimately set them
forth on. In the end, with their woes healed and their obstacles
overcome, her hand was finally put into his to be his wife, and I
quote from there:

`Thus steps of sorrow
Had led them to the height of happiness
That poets love to sing.
Paths thick with thorns had blossomed into roses,
Wreaths of everlasting flowers
Had crowned the winter snows.
And midst the lights and shadows of the old Northland,
Their lives flowed on, like two united streams
That roll through quiet pastures
To the ocean of eternity.'

May our Bride and Groom's trials also be behind them, and may their
future be as blessed as those in the myths and tales of old."

"The Art of a Good Marriage "
by Wilferd Arlan Peterson

"The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.

It is never taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other,
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner."


"The Key to Love"
by Anon, 1st century China

"The key to love is understanding ...
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.

The key to love is forgiveness ....
to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.

The key to love is sharing ...
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways
to intensify your happiness.

The key to love is giving ...
with out thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.

The key to love is respect ...
realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas;
that you don't belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

The key to love is inside us all ...
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients
that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work ...
but the rewards are more than worth the effort ...
and that is the key to love."


"Sooner or Later"
author Unknown

"Sooner or later we begin to understand
that love is more than verses on valentines,
and romance in the movies.
We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true,
the most important thing in our lives.
For love is the creator of our favourite memories
and the foundation of our fondest dreams.

Love is a promise that is always kept,
a fortune that can never be spent,
a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places.
And this radiance that never fades,
this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all -
one known only by those who love."


"If Thou Must Love Me"
Elizabeth Barrett Browing (1806-1861)

"If thou must love me, let it be for naught
Except for love's sake only. Do not say,
'I love her for her smile - her look - her way
Of speaking gently, for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and certes brought
A sense of pleasant ease on such a day' -
For these things in themselves, beloved, may
Be changed, or change for thee - and love, so wrought,
May be unwrought so. Neither love me for
Thine own dear pity's wiping my cheeks dry:
A creature might forget to weep, who bore
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love's sake, that evermore
Thou mayst love on, through love's eternity."


"True Love"

"True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines."


"I Will Be Here"
by Steven Curtis Chapman

"If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.

I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we'll be together,
And I will be here.
If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.

I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we're older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We'll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I've made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here."


"The Promises of Marriage"

"Marriage is a promise of companionship,
Of having someone to share
All of life's experiences.

Marriage does not promise that there will
Not be any rough times,
Just the assurance that there will
Always be someone
Who cares and will help you through
To better times.

Marriage does not promise eternal romance,
Just eternal love and commitment.
Marriage cannot prevent disappointments,
Disillusionment, or grief,
But it can offer hope, acceptance,
And comfort.

Marriage can't protect you from making
Individual choices
Or shelter you from the world,
But it will help to reassure you
That there is some by your side
Who truly cares,
When the world hurts you
And makes you feel vulnerable,
Marriage offers the promise that there will
Be someone waiting to listen,
To console, to inspire.

Marriage is the joining of two people
Who share the promise
That only marriage can make ...
To share the sunshine and the shadows,
And to experience a richer, more fulfilling life
Because of it."

"Reprise"
by Ogden Nash (1902-1971)

"Geniuses of countless nations
Have told their love for generations
Till all their memorable phrases
Are common as goldenrod or daisies.
Their girls have glimmered like the moon,
Or shimmered like a summer moon,
Stood like a lily, fled like a fawn,
Now the sunset, now the dawn,
Here the princess in the tower
There the sweet forbidden flower.
Darling, when I look at you
Every aged phrase is new,
And there are moments when it seems
I've married one of Shakespeare's dreams."

"In An Instant"
by Rev. Melissa L Straub
www.occasionallyyoursbrevard.com

"Our soulmates exist
In this well charted life
When we find them we know
In an instant it's right
And although to some
It seems far too fast
Who are we to judge
When their hearts meet at last
For they have known all along
To whom they belong
Their souls come together
Like a well rehearsed song
Let us support and nurture
The love these two know
So that through their lives together
This love shall continue to glow."


"All Things Are Ours"
by Barbara Burrow

"All things are ours because we love
The earth below, the sky above,
The mountains, meadow, sand, and sea.
All things surrounding you and me
Are but a sweet reflection of
The gentle wonder of our love."


"I Ask The Impossible"
by Anna Castillo

"I ask the impossible: love me forever.
Love me when all desire is gone.
Love me with the single-mindedness of a monk.
When the world and all its entirety,
and all that you hold sacred, advise you
against it: love me still more.
When rage fills you and has no name: love me.
When each step from your door to your job ties you-
love me; and from job to home again.

Love me when you are bored -
when everyone you see is more beautiful than the last,
or more pathetic, love me as you always have:
not as admirer or judge, but with
the compassion you save for yourself
in your solitude.

Love me as you relish your loneliness,
the anticipation of your death,
mysteries of the flesh, as it tears and mends.


Love me as your most treasured childhood memory-
and if there is none to recall -
imagine one, place me there with you.
Love me withered as you loved me new.

Love me as if I were forever -
and I will make the impossible
a simple act,
by loving you, loving you as I do."


"Love is..."
by Andrea Hill

"More beautiful than roses
Much deeper than the seas
Stronger than a hurricane
But timid like a breeze

Real as in a picture
But yet it can't be seen
More beautiful than anything
As vivid as a dream

Precious as rare jewels
A bond between two hearts
A symphony of feelings
When time is spent apart

Sharing common interests
Working through all fears
Looking at yourself
As if two were in the mirror

Finding common ground
On issues not agreed
Giving into arguments
Tending all your needs

Being there for always
Is all I want to do
Holding you forever
Because our love is true"


"The Colour Of My Love"
by David Foster and Arthur Janov

"I'll paint a sun to warm your heart
Knowing that we'll never part.
I'll draw the years all passing by
So much to learn, so much to try.

I'll paint my mood in shadow blue,
Paint my soul to be with you.
I'll sketch your lips in shaded tones,
Draw your mouth to my own.

I'll trace a hand to wipe your tears
And trace a look to calm your fears.
A silhouette of dark and light
To hold each other oh so tight.

I'll paint the stars in the evening sky,
Draw the light into your eyes,
A touch of love, a touch of grace,
To softly fall on your moonlit face.

And with this ring our lives will start,
Let nothing keep our love apart.
I'll take your hand to hold in mine,
And be together through all time."


"From This Day Forward"
Author Unknown

"From this day forward,
You shall not walk alone.
My heart will be your shelter,
And my arms will be your home".


"Sonnet 116"
by William Shakespeare (1564-1616)

"Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds.
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O, no! it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests and is not shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom,
If this be error, and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved."


"Love Is Enough"
by William Morris (1834-1896)

"Love is enough: though the World be a-waning,
And the woods have no voice but the voice of complaining,
Though the sky be too dark for dim eyes to discover
The gold-cups and daisies fair blooming thereunder,
Though the hills be held shadows, and the sea a dark wonder
And this day draw a veil over all deeds pass'd over,
Yet their hands shall not tremble, their feet shall not falter;
The void shall not weary, the fear shall not alter
These lips and these eyes of the loved and the lover."


"All I Want"
Author Unknown

All I want is to love you
For the rest of my life....
To wake up every morning
With you by my side,
Knowing that no matter what happens
I’ll be able to come home
To your loving arms.
All I want is to share everything with you....
To talk to you about our ideas, our dreams,
The little everyday things that make us laugh,
And the not-so-little things
That we can’t help worrying about.
All I want is to give you my love....
As a place you can always come to for acceptance
Or the simple comfort that silence brings
When things left unspoken can still be understood.
All I want is to grow old with you...
To watch our life unfold,
Our dreams, one by one, come true.
All I want is to love you forever.


"Sonnet 18"
by William Shakespeare (1564-1616)

"Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate:
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date:
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance, or nature's changing course untrimm'd;
But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st;
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade,
When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st:
So long as man can breath, or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee."


"Somewhere"
by Sir Edwin Arnold (1832-1904)

"Somewhere there waiteth in this world of ours
for one lone soul, another lonely soul -
Each chasing each through all the weary hours,
And meeting strangely at one sudden goal;
Then blend they - like green leaves with golden flowers,
Into one beautiful and perfect whole -
And life's long night is ended, and the way
Lies open onward to eternal day."


"Friendship"
by Hartley Coleridge (1726-1849)

"When we were idlers with the loitering rills,
The need of human love we little noted:
Our love was nature; and the peace that floated
On the white mist,
And dwelt upon the hills,
To sweet accord subdued our wayward wills:
One soul was ours, one mind, one heart devoted,
That, wisely doting, ask'd not why it doted,
And ours the unknown joy, which knowing kills.
But now I find how dear thou wert to me;
That man is more than half of nature's treasure,
Of that fair beauty which no eye can see,
Of that sweet music which no ear can measure;
And now the streams may sing for others' pleasure,
The hills sleep on in their eternity."


"Love"
by Roy Croft

"I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am when I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what you have made of yourself,
But for what you are making of me.

I love you for
the part of me that you bring out;
I love you for
putting your hand into my heaped-up heart
And passing over all the foolish, weak things
that you can't help dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out into the light
All the beautiful belongings
that no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.

I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern, but a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.

I love you because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
being a friend means, after all."


"My True Love Hath My Heart"
by Sir Philip Sidney (1554-1586)

"My true-love hath my heart, and I have his,
By just exchange one for another given:
I hold his dear, and mine he cannot miss,
There never was a better bargain driven:

My true-love hath my heart, and I have his,
My heart in me keeps him and me in one,
My heart in him his thoughts and senses guide:
He loves my heart, for once it was his own,
I cherish his because in me it bides:

My true-love hath my heart, and I have his."


"May Our Friendship Last Forever"
Author Unknown

May our friendship last forever;
May I sail upon your sea.
May we go through life together;
May there always be a "we."

May I be your endless sky;
May you breathe my gentle air.
May you never wonder why
Each time you look for me, I'm there.

May we be for each a smile
Like the warm, life-giving sun;
Yet when we're in pain awhile,
May our suffering be one.

May we share our special days,
The happiness of one for two;
And if we must go separate ways,
Let my love remain with you.


"Marriage Means Being In Love for the Rest of Your Life"
by Chris Ardis

Marriage is love walking hand in hand together.
It's laughing with each other about silly little things,
and learning to discuss big things with care and tenderness.
In marriage, love is trusting each other when you're apart.
It's getting over disappointments and hurts,
knowing that these are present in all relationships.
It's the realization that there is no one else in this world
that you’d rather be with than the one you're married to.
It's thinking of new things to do together;
It's growing old together.
Marriage is being in love for the rest of your life.   


"The Promise"
by
Eileen Rafter  
published with the authors permission

"The sun danced on the snow with a glittering smile,
As two lovers sat quietly, alone for a while.
Then he turned and said, with a casual air,
(Though he blushed from his toes to the tips of his hair)
“I think I’d quite like to get married to you.”

“Well then,” she said, “well there’s a thought,
But what if we can’t vow to be all that we ought?
Can you promise me, say, you won’t grumble and shout
If I’m late yet again when we plan to go out?
For I know I can’t say that I’ll learn to ignore
Dirty socks and damp towels strewn all over the floor.
So if we can’t promise to be all that we should,
I’m not sure what to do, though the idea’s quite good.”

But he gently smiled and tilted his head
Till his lips met her ear, then softly he said,
“I promise, to weave my dreams into your own.
That wherever you breathe shall be my heart’s home.
I promise, that whether with rags or with gold I am blessed,
Your smile is the jewel I shall treasure the best.
Do you think then, my love, we should marry, do you?”

“Yes,” she said smiling “I do.”


"On Your Wedding Day"
Author Unknown

"Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone's life
You'll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as Husband and Wife

It's a brand new beginning the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although there'll be times when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure

You'll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of true love lies unbroken

So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It's the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper 'I do'

And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
May success find it's way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts."


"Love"
Author Unknown

Love is a friendship that has caught fire.
It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad.
It settles for less than perfection,
and makes allowances for human weakness.
Love is content with the present.
It hopes for the future and it doesn't brood over the past.
It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small
disappointments, big victories,
and working toward common goals.
If you have love in your life,
it can make up for a great many things you lack.
If you don't have it, no matter what else there is,
it is not enough, so search for it, ask God for it, and share it!

"Fidelity"
by D.H. Lawrence

Man and woman are like the earth,
that brings forth flowers
in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.
Older than flowers, older than ferns,
older than foraminiferae,
older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath.
And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love
slowly a gem forms, in the ancient,
once-more-molten rocks
of two human hearts, two ancient rocks,
a man's heart and a woman's,
that is the crystal of peace,
the slow hard jewel of trust,
the sapphire of fidelity.
The gem of mutual peace
emerging from the wild chaos of love.


"Prayer of Love"

My marriage prayer for you is this:
That you will always remember the qualities that attracted you
to each other when you first met and how you felt as your feelings
of attraction turned into respect, admiration and finally love.
That you will work hard to turn your feelings of love into acts of love
so that nothing and no one can divide you.
That you will always have kind and loving hearts that are quick
to ask for forgiveness when you are wrong
as well as to forgive when your partner is wrong.
That your love might grow to hear all things, believe all
things, and hope for all things, endure all things.
I pray you place your marriage in God's hands, and that your
love increases and overflows, beyond anything you can yet imagine.


"Beyond the Reflection"
by Thomas Merton

"The beginning of love is to let those we
love be perfectly themselves, and not to
twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise
we love only the reflection of ourselves
we see in them."


"This Bridge"
by Shel Silverstein

"This bridge will only take you halfway there
To those mysterious lands you long to see:
Through gypsy camps and swirling Arab fairs
And moonlit woods where unicorns run free.
So come and stay awhile with me and share
The twisting trails and wondrous worlds I've known.
But this bridge will only take you halfway there...
The last few steps you'll have to take alone."


"The Magic Of Love"
by Helen Steiner Rice

"Love is like magic
And it always will be,
For love still remains
Life's sweet mystery!
Love works in ways
That are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in life
That love cannot change!
Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendour
And sweetness and grace!
Love is unselfish,
Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart
And not with its mind!
Love is the answer
That everyone seeks...
Love is the language
That every heart speaks...
Love can't be bought
It is priceless and free,
Love, like pure magic,
Is a sweet mystery!"


"Marriage is ....."
by Anon, 1st century China

" Marriage is a dynamic process of discovery
Marriage is a journey, not an arrival.
In marriage, being the right person is as important
as finding the right person.
Marriage is starting to love, over and over again.
Marriage is a life's work.
Marriage is an art... and like any creative process,
It requires active thought and effort.
We have to learn how to share on many different levels.
We need to practice talking from the heart,
And understanding attitudes as well as words.
Giving generously and receiving graciously
are talents that are available to anyone.
But all these skills need to be developed,
if the marriage picture that we paint is to be anything
approaching the masterpiece intended.


"If You Can Always Be As Close"
by Larry S. Chengges

"And as happy as today,
Yet be secure enough to grow
And change along the way.
If you can keep for you alone
Your love as man and wife,
Yet find the time to share your joy
With others in your life.
If you can be as one
And walk through marriage hand in hand,
Yet still support the goals and dreams
That each of you have planned.
If you can dare to always go
Your separate ways together,
Then all the wonder of today
Will stay with you forever. "


"A Lifetime of Love"
Author Unknown

"The most ideal expression of love
is the joining in spirit of two people whose hearts are as one.

'Love'

A word that promises so many happy tomorrows,
That gives meaning to everyday moments of sharing ..
That strengthens and supports in difficult time..
That makes a commitment that never ends.
Today is the beginning of a whole new life together
A life of special moments, shared with love.
Today is the beginning of countless bright tomorrows..
Filled with all the special dreams you are dreaming of.
May the happiness you have found together be yours
throughout a lifetime of love."


"This Life Is Yours"
Author Unknown

"Take the power
To choose what you want to do
And do it well
Take the power
To love what you want in life
And love it honestly
Take the power
To walk in the forest
And be a part of nature
Take the power
To control your own life
No one else can do it for you
Take the power
To make your life happy"


"Desiderata"
by Max Erhmann

"As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth
quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant, they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexation to the spirit. If you compare yourself
with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser
persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep invested in your
own career, however humble. It is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise
caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to
what virtue there is: many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of
heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in
the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel
of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield
you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of
fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child
of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether
or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace
with yourself. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be
careful. Strive to be happy."


"Possibility"
by Ralph Masrton

"In the seed, there is a forest waiting to grow.
On the artist's canvas, a masterpiece is waiting to be painted.
In the engineer's workstation,
a technical breakthrough is waiting to be developed.
Everywhere there is possibility.
Every moment of every life is filled with possibilities,
and the next moment as well.
Every problem has a possible solution.
Every goal has a possibility of achievement.
Right now, right this moment,
your life has possibilities that you never even considered.
Possibilities you can follow to overcome the challenges you face.
Possibilities that can bring joy and fulfilment.
There is a pathway leading to wherever you want to go.
All you need to do is find it and start the journey.
Today does not have to be like yesterday.
There are plenty of other possibilities.
Consider your possibilities. Follow your possibilities.
Open yourself to what could be, and make it so."


"A Marriage...."
by Mark Twain

"Makes of two fractional lives a whole;
It gives to two purposeless lives a work
And doubles the strength of each to perform it
It gives to two questioning natures a reason for living,
And something to live for;
It will give a new gladness to the sunshine,
A new fragrance to the flowers,
A new beauty to the earth,
And a new mystery to life"


"Love Is The Most Incredible
Of All The Experiences That Touch Our Lives"
Author Unknown

"It creates for us the world that we want to live in.
From the beginning of our lives,
we know that love is the power that comforts and protects us;
It is the one feeling that we can depend upon
to help us through life's ups and downs.
Love is the understanding and security that never changes;
It allows us to be ourselves and feel self confident.
Today, as the two of you join together and commit your love to each other, remember the
lessons of love that you have always known.
Let your love comfort, support and encourage you.
Let your love be the best part of your lives;
Always know that it will make everything better
and it will make your world a place of happiness.


“Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog”
by Taylor Mali

"First of all, it’s a big responsibility,
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you’re walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain’t no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breaths
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn’t like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know ‘Don’t you ever do that again!’
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you’re all wound up and can’t move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops."

"Why Marriage?"
by Mari Nichols-Haining

Because to the depths of me, I long to love one person,
With all my heart, my soul, my mind, my body…
Because I need a forever friend to trust
with the intimacies of me,
Who won’t hold them against me,
Who loves me when I’m unlikable,
Who sees the small child in me, and
Who looks for the divine potential of me…
Because I need to cuddle in the warmth of the night
With someone who thanks God for me,
With someone I feel blessed to hold…
Because marriage means opportunity
To grow in love in friendship…
Because marriage is a discipline
To be added to a list of achievements…
Because marriages do not fail, people fail
When they enter into marriage
Expecting another to make them whole…
Because, knowing this,
I promise myself to take full responsibility
For my spiritual, mental and physical wholeness
I create me, I take half of the responsibility for my marriage
Together we create our marriage…
Because of this understanding
The possibilities are limitless.

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