DSCN7006cropOfficiant: Debora Garner Andrews

Officiant approaches front of venue down the aisle.

Chris and Kiersten enter from rear of venue and proceed down aisle to podium taking their places on either side facing forward. Best Man and Maid of Honor proceed down aisle, The Best Man should shake Chris’ hand as a show of support, then they should take their places with the Maid of Honor to the left of Kiersten and the Best Man to the left of Chris. Kelly’s processional music starts.

When Kelly, Isaac and Brayden appear, ready to walk down the aisle. . .

Officiant: Ladies and Gentlemen, please rise.

Kelly proceeds to front of venue toward Chris, music ends as Kelly approaches podium. Kelly and Isaac/Brayden should stand in front of podium . . .

Presentation of the Bride

We are gathered here today in the presence of friends and loved ones, to celebrate one of life’s greatest moments. We are here to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words that will unite Kelly and Chris in marriage.

If there is anyone present who has any reason why this couple should not be united, be silent forever! This couple has chosen each other on this day…

Officiant: Who supports this woman in her commitment to this man?

Sons:  We do.  Sons should then hug Kelly and shake hands with Chris to show their support.  Sons should then take places to the left of the Best Man. Chris should step forward toward Kelly and take her hand. Kelly and Chris will then take a step toward officiant and remain facing officiant.

Today we have come together to witness the joining of these two lives. For them, out of the routine of ordinary life, the extraordinary has happened. They met each other, fell in love and are finalizing it with their wedding today.

Romance is fun, but true love is something far more and it is their desire to love each other for life and that is what we are celebrating here today.

Chris and Kelly will you please face each other and join hands. Kelly may hand her bouquet to Kiersten.

I use a short questionnaire in order to tailor ceremonies to each individual couple. The first question is “Tell me how you met.” Well, . . . most of you already know that story so we won’t go into it at this time.

Another question is “When did you know you were in love?”

Chris knew that Kelly was his intended when he realized that she is his best friend and he could not think about doing or going anywhere without her; that she is the center of his whole world.

Kelly knew she was in love with Chris the first time he became ill. All she wanted to do was make him feel better, and her heart actually hurt knowing there was nothing she could do. She said that if she felt the same emotions toward him as she did toward her children when they were ill, then it must be love.

When I asked Kelly what her favorite memory of Chris was, she said it was look on his face when she told him “I love you” for the first time. She hadn’t planned on telling him at all. He was leaving her house one morning and when she walked him to the door, she gave him a hug and kiss and she guessed everything just felt right because the next thing she knew, she’s saying “have a good day baby, I lo…..ve you.” She was shocked and a little embarrassed at the sudden proclamation, but when she looked back up at him, he had this huge smile and said, “its ok, I loves you, too’s” BEST FEELING EVER!

That is most likely Chris’ favorite memory also, although he didn’t remember until now.


Do you, Chris, take Kelly to be your partner for life. Do you promise to never give up, to always fight through the bad times and enjoy the good. Will you share with her the feeling of comfort, safety, and love. Will she always know she will never have to go through the trials and tribulations of life alone. That you will always be there encouraging and supporting her. Do you take her as your lawfully wedded wife for now (pause) and forevermore? (“I do.”)

Do you, Kelly, take Chris to be your partner for life. Do you promise this marriage will be the closest relationship that the two of you can share. Will you be his everything, his whole world. Will you share his laughter, and his tears, as his partner, lover and best friend because you “match togetta?” Do you take him as your lawfully wedded husband for now and forevermore? (“I do.”)

Ring Ceremony

The ring is a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have here taken.

Ring Exchange (who has the rings) (repeat after me)

I Chris, give you Kelly, this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my promise to learn and grow with you.

I give Kelly, give you Chris, this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my pledge to learn and grow with you.

Unity Sand Ceremony

Chris and Kelly, today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other, joining your two families into one.

First, you will each separately pour a layer of sand into the vase, representing who you are as an individual. First one person pours, then the other, forming two distinct layers of sand.

Then, you will pour simultaneously, blending your two colors as you will blend your lives in marriage. The couple pours simultaneously. Depending on the size and shape of the vase, it may form a third color, or a swirl of the two colors.

Officiant: As the individual grains of sand can no longer be separated, may your bond also be inseparable.

But you are also making a bond with your children, Kiersten, Isaac and Brayden. As they also contribute their unique personalities and strengths to this new family, they will also individually add a layer of sand to this unity vase.

Kiersten, do you promise to love your mother and her new husband?

Kiersten responds: “I do.” (pours sand)

Isaac, do you promise to support their marriage and your new family?

Isaac responds: “I do.” (pours sand)

Brayden, do you promise to accept the responsibility of being their children, and to encourage them, support them, and accept them?

Brayden responds: “I do.” (pours sand)

Pause as the children pour their sand individually, forming separate layers over their parents’ blended sand.

Then everyone, Chris, Kelly, Kiersten, Isaac and Brayden will pour together, representing their commitment to each other .

Everyone pours simultaneously. It may be difficult to have everyone around the vase at once, but it should be as simultaneous as possible. After sand has been poured

Chris’ promise to Kelly’s children: “Kiersten, Isaac and Brayden, I promise to always love you, listen to you, learn from you, and teach you what I know. I promise I will be good to your Mom.” “Is that cool?” Everyone hugs each other to seal the deal.


If there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, may it be the love that brought you here. Today, your separate lives with your individual memories, desires, and hopes merge into one.

 Pronouncement of couple as Husband and Wife.

Forasmuch as you both have consented, have pledged your love each to the other, and have declared the same by joining hands and by giving and receiving rings; I, by the power entrusted to me, pronounce that you are husband and wife.

Chris, you may kiss your lovely Wife.

With great joy I introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. Chris and Kelly . . .